Politely Declining Invitations in Portuguese

Declining an invitation in Portuguese doesn’t have to feel like navigating a social minefield. Whether you’re turning down a dinner invite or skipping a party, the right phrasing can keep things smooth and polite. Here’s how to do it like a native.

Basic Phrases for Saying 'No' Politely

• “Obrigado(a), mas não vou poder ir.” – “Thanks, but I won’t be able to go.” (Neutral and straightforward)
• “Infelizmente, já tenho compromisso.” – “Unfortunately, I already have plans.” (Softens the refusal)
• “Agradeço o convite, mas desta vez não dá.” – “I appreciate the invitation, but this time it’s not possible.” (Polite and appreciative)

Adding a Reason (Optional but Helpful)

While you don’t owe anyone an explanation, giving a brief reason can make your refusal feel less abrupt. Here are some common ones:

• “Estou com a agenda cheia esta semana.” – “My schedule is full this week.”
• “Preciso descansar um pouco.” – “I need to rest a bit.” (Great for avoiding overcommitment)
• “Vou ficar com a família.” – “I’m going to stay with family.” (Works well for weekends/holidays)

When You Want to Leave the Door Open

If you’d like to suggest hanging out another time, try these:

• “Outra hora combinamos?” – “Can we arrange another time?” (Casual)
• “Vamos marcar para a próxima semana?” – “Shall we schedule for next week?” (More direct)

Cultural Nuances to Keep in Mind

Portuguese speakers, especially in Brazil, often value warmth and indirectness. A flat “no” can sometimes feel harsh. Pairing your refusal with a smile or a light tone helps. In Portugal, responses might be slightly more formal.

When in Doubt, Default to Gratitude

A simple “Obrigado(a) pelo convite!” (“Thanks for the invitation!”) at the start or end of your refusal softens the blow. For more on expressing appreciation, check out our guide on Portuguese love expressions.

With these phrases, you’ll navigate Portuguese social situations without guilt or awkwardness. Practice a few, and soon declining will feel as natural as accepting.