Dutch dating culture is direct but charming. Whether you’re flirting, confessing feelings, or navigating a relationship, the right phrases can make all the difference. Here’s how to sound natural - and maybe even a bit romantic - in Dutch.
Flirting & First Impressions
- “Je hebt mooie ogen.” (You have beautiful eyes.)
- “Vind je het erg als ik je mee uit vraag?.” (Do you mind if I ask you out?)
- “Lachen staat je goed.” (Smiling suits you.)
Dutch people appreciate honesty. A little cheekiness is fine, but avoid over-the-top compliments - they’ll likely raise eyebrows.
Asking Someone Out
Afspreken
/ˈɑfspreːkə(n)/“To meet up (casually)”
The Dutch equivalent of “hanging out.” Less pressure than a formal date.
Try these:
- “Zullen we een keer afspreken?” (Shall we meet up sometime?)
- “Ik wil je graag beter leren kennen.” (I’d like to get to know you better.)
Confessing Feelings
When things get serious:
- “Ik ben verliefd op je.” (I’m in love with you.)
- “Ik voel me heel gelukkig met jou.” (I feel really happy with you.)
Relationship Talk
Vaste relatie
/ˈvɑstə rəˈlaːsi/“Serious relationship”
The Dutch term for a committed relationship. No ambiguity here.
- “Wil je exclusief zijn?” (Do you want to be exclusive?)
- “Ik zie een toekomst met jou.” (I see a future with you.)
Pet Names & Endearments
- “Schat” (Treasure) - common and sweet.
- “Liefje” (Sweetheart).
Dutch pet names are straightforward. Avoid overly cutesy terms - they’re not as common as in some cultures.
Navigating Conflict
Even the best relationships hit bumps. Here’s how to address them in Dutch:
- “Kunnen we hierover praten?” (Can we talk about this?)
- “Ik voel me niet begrepen.” (I don’t feel understood.)
For more on Dutch communication styles, check out our guide on Dutch proverbs.
